If He Pulls Away- This Will Make Him Chase You ! . . . ?
- Miza
- Sep 3, 2024
- 2 min read
Every time, I come across such postings (with the titles like this one) by so-called dating gurus, it irks me to my very bones ! I’m left with no choice but let my eyes roll; one that could make a grand round tour from the Earth to Pluto and back again.
Let’s take a look at these “strategies” that are touted as highly effective:
Play hard to get
Use jealousy as a tool
Give him silent treatment
Be aloof and mysterious
Use reverse psychology
Use sex as a bargaining tool
The list goes on…… It’s baffling.
And then, there’s that infamous “The 4 word text message that will pull him back”. Yes, my eyes are rolling here.
These teachings not only suggest that a woman’s worth, values and happiness are tied to how she must distort her true self expression and needs in order to keep a man in this ridiculous cat and mouse game; but also ultimately implying that there is something inherently wrong with her.
The worst part ? Many women, fall for these teachings. And such teachings are often peddled by individuals who profit from those who are vulnerable and seeking validation.
Consider this: if a man is truly interested in a woman (and considering the innate hunter instinct in men), he needs no coaxing, chasing or any psychological manipulation to keep him engaged & interested. Most importantly, genuine affection and connection are built on mutual attraction, respect, healthy communication, compassion, and a sincere desire to be in each other's company.
When a man pulls away, often it’s for reasons that have nothing to do with the woman involved; but his own fears, insecurities, or simply a lack of readiness for a deep, meaningful relationship. In other words, a lack of alignment.
A man’s lack of interest towards a woman is not an invitation for her to devise a masterplan of manipulative tactics that ultimately only betray herself, needs and values. If he pulls away, let him. And if he returns, she'll then know it's because he genuinely wants to be with her, not because he was manipulated into relationship that he no longer wanted to participate in.
So let not these trivial unhealthy games in false teachings cloud yourself. Instead, embrace who you truly are as you are deserving of someone who genuinely sees you and values you for who you are; your uniqueness within your curves & quirks.
Honestly, the piece of advice that every woman needs to hear is: just embody your true self, and the perfect person for you, will chase you for you !
xx
Miza
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